If you’ve ever watched the 90s movie Coming to America, Eddi Murphy told his parent he wated to marry someone who loves him for who he is and not for what he is and the dad asked – “and who are you?”
He said, ” I am a man who has never tied his own shoes before.”
Eddie was a prince and billionaire heir. He knew he could afford any woman he wanted and more importantly, he will always be the catch because he was rich. Meaning, someone lost her humanity and essence living her whole life to appease him just to be chosen.
Eddie wanted someone to see him as the man he was and not the heir to the throne of Zamunda. In his words he wanted a lady “who arouses my intellect as well as my loins.”
He wanted someone to choose him not the crown prince because genuine affection cannot be bought.
He wanted someone who had a voice and exude her essence and not someone who was always all over him because he was a billionaire heir because when you are rich, women would do your biddings with ease to remain chosen.
This was confusing to his best friend who thought as a billionaire heir and Prince, his wife need only have a pretty face, firm backside and big breasts and obey all his commands but Eddie responded he wanted someone whose opinion he could respect and not a beautiful fool.
This is the mistake many guys make these days. You think you can’t afford a lady because she has breasts and ass. You don’t care about being love and have convinced yourself that you just need to have enough money to keep her happy and she would respect you.
The ladies too have confirmed they would cook, clean, be your peace(whatever that means) and do your biddings if you are rich and this is why they think a broke dude should not contact them. Even their love hunt markets their sex appeal and ability to run the home for a rich guy.
Money is beautiful fam. But if the girl you want can only be gotten with money, you are approaching the wrong person. The presumption of that statement is that you only have money to offer/need to offer only money and you will have to keep affording her in order not to lose her.
Do you wonder why you feel threatened when a richer guy is all over her or why you suddenly have fears when your hustle is having issues and money is becoming difficult? Truth is, you know your only chance with her is money and now you fear she would leave.
YOU CAN’T NEGOTIATE GENUINE DESIRE
Be with someone who knows you, who sees you as a friend and is willing to ride with you to the end of the earth. Someone who knows the value of money and doesn’t consider it a factor to be with you.
Someone who has a voice and opinion and able to use it in your presence because you are friends. Someone who values truth and moments together over how much you can spend to impress her. Someone who doesn’t care if you live in some suburb or the trenches because what matters to her is YOU.
You don’t need money to be with who genuinely wants you. Having money is beautiful and you will spend it on your girl and kids one day, deservedly.
Beyond that, before choosing, have you considered if this girl is really your friend? Can you trust your position in her life is firm. Do you know beyond eating your money, this is someone you have to return home to, this is someone to help you face your midlife crisis, can you trust if shit happens, she will stay because your bond is stronger than money?
Ass and breast is common – ask yourself real questions.
The lady you choose is going to be your biggest life decision and that is why you can’t be swayed by fleeting emotions or feel of her sexuality.
Never feel you have to do more to get her to stay. If she wants to leave you for another with more money, let her go. Always trust you have more than money to offer and any lady would be lucky to be with you unless you don’t think you have anything to offer other than money.
There is no soul mate anywhere. There is no one particular girl out there for you. Stop telling yourself you can’t live without her. You can live without her- you just choose not to.
You matter and so does your feelings. Choose who chooses you NOT whom you have to impress. I said it.
