You ever been just there ,away from everyone then you decide to the text “that one person” and just have some talk that’s actually heading nowhere but just gives you hybygybygybys….but they’re not around. Unreplied texts. Their not reachable on phone and they’re not online anywhere and your whole world turn dark. OVERTHINKING kicks in. We’ve all been therefor a fact I know most of us are always ashamed to tell their partners but mehn, they’ve been there. And at that moment, let me not lie, we never think our partners are doing something nice.
No. Nope. I mean, you can’t switch off your phone and do something nice. Unless you’re with me obviously .Mates, we’re insecure. And it’s eating most of y’all and even wearing you out but you never speak about it.Insecurity is one he’ll of a thing and basically(from my point of view though) is the number one cause of depression in people below 23.To some extent, insecurity is cool, I mean, who doesn’t love the hard work put in a relationship by the insecure partner?? The daily “good morning”,”Good night”,”Can we chill the whole day? ” typpa texts?? Insecurity makes you value your partner more. But too much insecurity creates a toxic creates a toxic atmosphere in your relationship and can even wreck havoc on your confidence. It’s even enough to seperate partners who love and care for each other.
When insecurity (ama we just say Jealousy) begins to surface, it can appear harmless and adorable but if it continues growing like a cavity, it can make you act out of character and even harm the relationship. If that’s the case and it’s taking a toll on you and your partner, I think you should try this simple tips (they helped me big time)
Find out the root cause of your insecurity. You can’t banish something if you don’t acknowledge it exists. Try to think about what’s causing so much grief in your current relationship. Maybe it’s a random comment someone said to you one time? Or maybe could it be something your partner is doing that’s making you question their motives?
Trust yourself and your partner. Trust not only means sharing your deepest secrets with your partner without worrying that they’re gonna blab them to anyone who will listen, but it also brings you comfort in knowing that they mean what they say. However, si ati nakuambia ufanye ivi, but if you feel a deep needling at your core telling you something just isn’t right, trust your gut¿?….
Give your partner space. For a healthy relationship, you need to be willing to give your partner space. I know if you’re feeling insecure /jealous,space is not what you need .But giving your partner space can help prevent them from feeling attacked .it can also give you a great opportunity to pursue your own interests and work on maintaining your own social life bana.
Si lazima you just stick around him/her. Si uko na mabeste wengine. Doing things on your own can help boost your confidence and remind yourself that you still have a life outside your relationship.
